Now that Reu is 20 weeks he’s really started to develop his own personality and it’s amazing (and funny)! One minute he’ll be really happy, the next in a massive mood with his bottom lip out, then in a blink he’s lolling at something again (aren’t babies weird)?!
The other day I started to think about how weird it was that James and I are literally rearing a little personality. I mean he started in my tummy and only really sees James and I (of course he sees other people, family, friends etc. but most of his time is with us) so as he grows he must be picking up all his little quirky (and very cute – these ones probs from me PAH!) traits from us?! I know there’s the whole nature/nurture argument but I have always been a real believer in nurture, which would imply that the way we raise Reu will massively influence his personality, PRESSURE!
If I thought about this too much it would deffo stress me out, wondering whether or not my constant kissing of his face, hands feet, tummy…would make him a massive mummy’s boy (I imagine most mummy’s do this ??? so I’m hoping this wont be the case).
I find it totally fascinating how babies become little people, and how they can develop a new skill overnight. One day you think they’ll never discover their hands, the next they are eating them and clasping them together! I used to find it really funny, that cliché about parents thinking their babies are genius’ and way more advanced than all the other babies their age, but that is actually me now! Whenever Reu does anything different or new I’m convinced he’s doing it better than everyone else, I’m fairly certain he has said “Waaaagwan!” more than once whilst sucking on his dummy, so he’s pretty much talking already. Unfortunately I think he has also tapped into his inner teenager as he gets in little grumps fairly regularly now, made up for completely by his little cheeky boy smirk!
Before we had Reu I had all these plans to stimulate and mould his personality like read him ten books a day, play him cultured music, and so on but in reality I just about manage to wash, feed and dress him with spurts of playing mixed in so in actual fact his main source of culture is me chit chatting to him…bon chance little man 😜
Isn’t it funny how there are instructions for every other thing in the world pretty much but for something as important as raising a personality there is no absolute guide (discounting the endless advice out there)! You just have to use your instinct and roll with it! There’s a peom about this isn’t there…
“They fuck you up, your mum and dad.
They may not mean to, but they do.
They fill you with the faults they had,
And add some extra, just for you….”(Philip Larkin)
…I mean that’s pretty morbid and I hope not true but you get where he’s coming from. Flip it round and I plan on giving Reu all my best bits and am totally sure he will have a sensational personality 🙂